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Jennifer R. Sandberg's avatar

Sounds like my upbringing. I was unwanted at birth because I was the wrong gender. AND I spent 32 years in an abusive marriage. I have 3 adult children who seem to have missed most of what I had growing up. At least they always knew that their Mom loved them.

Sylvia G's avatar

Beautiful writing, Ros. I was immediately drawn in and could visualize this story unfold in my mind’s eye. Thank you for sharing this story which has multiple important points, well conveyed. The two points that really struck home with me is how the depression of an expectant mother impacts the experience of the unborn and the child. I was also really moved by the honesty of explaining to children the actual (non hyperbole) facts about how much money is available at a given time and what it is already earmarked for. Thank you for sharing this with us. Very moving all the way around.

Stacy Ann's avatar

My mom has always been depressed and so have I. I feel like I’m constantly playing life on hard mode and it sucks. Thanks for this.

Frank Daley's avatar

Sadly, there multitudes like you, Ros.

You bear no fault, just the brunt of what must seem endless.

I admire your grit, insight, and continuing self-knowledge, without which, people fail.

You are not failing.

I hope your husband is strong.

When we die, God will say this, in effect:

"I gave you these parents, and grandparents (continuing back).

I placed you in this (or these) country, this era, this century.

I gave you these gifts, talents, and abilities.

There were many obstacles impeding you.

Due to circumstances beyond your control, you lacked opportunities to develop some of these gitts.

I don't care if you were rich or poor, powerful or powerless.

I have only one question:

How did you do?

We have to have a good answer.

You will have a good answer.

CG Karas's avatar

I don't know what you will do next, but I'm absolutely certain it will be extraordinary. I've fallen behind on your book weekly. Look for a new apartment and being a fitful reader. But I love it so far. It's like watching a really great film. So there's a photo of the infamous cupboards. Yeesh!